You bet. If people are talking about you, they are talking about you, no matter what they say. Just enjoy it. Enjoy the things people are ready to do to let you know that they hate you.
Sometimes it gets really creative. This is simply not possible. If you try to be all things to all people you end up being nothing to no one. I know, double negative, but it sounds better this way. Once you know this you can create a truly tailored message to them in form of products, posts, other content, or offers and give them exactly what they want. Care only about the people who matter to you. Unless, you work for Coca-Cola or something.
And if, hopefully, you find yourself in a situation where someone gets pissed off at you for what you do … well, mission accomplished — you have a hater.
Now get another one. This is probably not the right path to follow. Hate, love, critique and praise are all acknowledgment.
You're no longer ignored or unseen; you've made it to the spotlight where the magic happens. Good job, you've made it to the next level. Some of us are cursed with a natural desire to please everyone with our personal and professional choices. Embrace the criticism. At age 40, we don't care what they think of us. At age 60, we discover they haven't been thinking of us at all.
Hurt people hurt people. When we tear others down, we reveal more of our true character than theirs. An attack on others only exposes our thought process, insecurities, suppressed emotions, and how we judge people. If feedback has any merit — regardless of whether you consider it constructive — be humble and openly consider it with gratitude and love. It baffles me when I see two keyboard warriors attacking one another online. Tempers flare, egos are damaged, and no one is inspired to grow.
A discouraging word could augment your thought process. Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger. The best, most powerful advocates often start out as your toughest critics.
Listen to them and engage with them constructively. After I approached one of the largest PC manufacturers in the world about creating a partnership, they told me it would never work.
Fast forward a few years, and we are their largest third-party partner—and the partnership is growing. Persistence, dedication and passion are key.
Share small wins along the way and watch the momentum build! History is filled with examples of technological breakthroughs that were once met with resistance.
Nurses, doctors, EMTs can show you their scars, where a patient stabbed them or hurt them, whether intentionally or not. To be a hater is to be a mess. There may be addiction or whatnot, or just undeveloped character.
They fear sunshine on their behavior more than anything else. When you shed light on the situation by not playing along with deceptions, etc. Haters are better than anything you could ever want on your resume. Just the fact that they do whatever it is they try to do to harm you is a validation that they sense you are going to be successful. Plus, no one is successful nowadays without them. So, their activities are really a badge of honor, especially as time goes on.
Like every day after you get rid of haters success just falls in your lap. Haters have been busy. So they spend a LOT of time trying to think of passive or passive-aggressive ways to harm you.
But this is a good thing, because the minute they are out of your lives, all of these BETTER relationships suddenly sprout up. A repeated pattern of whatever behavior you discover. Haters deserve mercy and love and forgiveness. That only hurts the nurse. If you fight with them, you validate their false sense of victimhood or further hatred. They need love, and help, though ideally, from someone else, and hopefully, far, far away. Haters of a feather flock together. Haters need support to sustain the justification for their behavior, lack of character, and just the really sad fact that they have engaged in hating.
But those people are either also being deceived, or, more likely, enjoy the hating. They may even like the fact that they can support the hating without actually getting their own hands dirty.
In time, they may discover that they were deceived or were wrong, but you have to let them go just like the haters.
This is how some people feel that they have to be in order to make their way in the world, especially when it comes to money. Every leader has a bucket full of tears they have cried over the things that haters do. Let it hurt. No, let that pain be open. Over time, the hate takes them over. You can let them have their hate. It challenges people to produce and grow and create.
You created the hate. Look, light cannot exist without darkness. Test me on this. Let the haters tell you what to do. The best thing you can do is dialogue with them on paper or in your own mind and ask them what you should do. They might tell you to clean up your act. Haters make you into the leader you want to be. So prepare: there will likely be more.
Haters, and their support networks, are trapped in shame. You will almost always find a childhood rife with shame or shaming. Hating is usually an attempt by those riddled with shame to publicly shame someone else.
The whole world is watching. When haters try to take someone down, the whole world steps back and watches to see what everyone does.
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